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13 more sleeps!
Posted by Slowplum
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12/12/2006 09:19:00 PM
Christmas is almost upon us and frankly I'm nervous.
Ok. So. My friend from the UK is coming to visit on the 22 of December - this makes me absolutely giddy. My cousin Lo is coming on the 29th so I'm twice as giddy. It's going to be a good holiday, in spite of having to work a few days through it.
C got in trouble - she kicked a boy in the back. All because some girls told her that some boy had hit her on the butt - but she didn't even feel it. Then this other boy was laughing with his friend at her. She got all mad at being made fun of, so she kicked him in the back. She didn't even want to tell me what she ended up doing was saying "sign this and don't read it ok?" So naturally I read it and was even more upset because she tried to hide it from me. S decided to tell her she wasn't going to Brownies tonight, though it was the Christmas one. We had a long long talk about how she should be dealing with her anger, and what she should do. To drive the point home we also added that this boy's parents must be pretty angry, and probably wanting to see the principal to see what happened and be assured it would never happen again. We reminded her about how many problems we have had with K being picked on, and how it made us all feel, and then she goes and kicks a boy in the back while he is sitting and certainly not expecting it.
In the end we agreed she could go and instead, her punishment is going to be that she has to scrub the upstairs bathroom - I mean really scrub. She is going to do her regular chores as well and NOT get allowance for it this week. She is going to apologise to the boy and mean it. There were some other things discussed but you get the point. The only reason we relented about Brownies was because for one thing, it was the Christmas event and she had already missed last's week's festivites, and she didn't kick up a fuss when we told her she couldn't go - she took it in stride and just went to her room when we told her. She was terribly upset but she didn't pull a tantrum or anything. S had actually given her the choice of either missing recess for 2 days (her punishment if she didn't bring in the signed note) or missing Brownies. She chose missing Brownies, even though she was desperate to go, because missing recess would be too much.
In a way I feel like I copped out, but on the other hand, the kid is eight, she's never really lashed out at anyone before, and she was reasonable about her punishment. Plus, there's nothing like scrubbing at a tub to make you realize "gee... I really, really hate this chore" and maybe she'll think "perhaps I will behave better next time".
Any feedback on my terrible parenting skills will come upon shut ears. You've been suitably warned.
Ok. So. My friend from the UK is coming to visit on the 22 of December - this makes me absolutely giddy. My cousin Lo is coming on the 29th so I'm twice as giddy. It's going to be a good holiday, in spite of having to work a few days through it.
C got in trouble - she kicked a boy in the back. All because some girls told her that some boy had hit her on the butt - but she didn't even feel it. Then this other boy was laughing with his friend at her. She got all mad at being made fun of, so she kicked him in the back. She didn't even want to tell me what she ended up doing was saying "sign this and don't read it ok?" So naturally I read it and was even more upset because she tried to hide it from me. S decided to tell her she wasn't going to Brownies tonight, though it was the Christmas one. We had a long long talk about how she should be dealing with her anger, and what she should do. To drive the point home we also added that this boy's parents must be pretty angry, and probably wanting to see the principal to see what happened and be assured it would never happen again. We reminded her about how many problems we have had with K being picked on, and how it made us all feel, and then she goes and kicks a boy in the back while he is sitting and certainly not expecting it.
In the end we agreed she could go and instead, her punishment is going to be that she has to scrub the upstairs bathroom - I mean really scrub. She is going to do her regular chores as well and NOT get allowance for it this week. She is going to apologise to the boy and mean it. There were some other things discussed but you get the point. The only reason we relented about Brownies was because for one thing, it was the Christmas event and she had already missed last's week's festivites, and she didn't kick up a fuss when we told her she couldn't go - she took it in stride and just went to her room when we told her. She was terribly upset but she didn't pull a tantrum or anything. S had actually given her the choice of either missing recess for 2 days (her punishment if she didn't bring in the signed note) or missing Brownies. She chose missing Brownies, even though she was desperate to go, because missing recess would be too much.
In a way I feel like I copped out, but on the other hand, the kid is eight, she's never really lashed out at anyone before, and she was reasonable about her punishment. Plus, there's nothing like scrubbing at a tub to make you realize "gee... I really, really hate this chore" and maybe she'll think "perhaps I will behave better next time".
Any feedback on my terrible parenting skills will come upon shut ears. You've been suitably warned.